{"id":20085,"date":"2014-01-01T14:11:42","date_gmt":"2014-01-01T19:11:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nche.com\/?p=20085"},"modified":"2021-02-01T10:14:29","modified_gmt":"2021-02-01T15:14:29","slug":"our-adoption-story","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nche.com\/de\/our-adoption-story\/","title":{"rendered":"Unsere Adoptionsgeschichte"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;3.22&#8243;][et_pb_row column_structure=&#8221;2_3,1_3&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;3.25&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;2_3&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;3.25&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.6.6&#8243; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div class=\"field field-name-field-article-pub-date field-type-date field-label-hidden\">\n<div class=\"field-items\">\n<div class=\"field-item even\"><span class=\"date-display-single\">1 Jan 2014<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden\">\n<div class=\"field-items\">\n<div class=\"field-item even\">\n<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-20496 alignnone size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/nche.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/01\/Hilton-Family550.jpg?resize=550%2C347&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"550\" height=\"347\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nche.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/01\/Hilton-Family550.jpg 550w, https:\/\/nche.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/01\/Hilton-Family550-480x303.jpg 480w\" sizes=\"(min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) 550px, 100vw\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Our adoption story started in 1984. We went to see a movie that gave us a desire to want to give a child a home that does not have a home. The movie was not about adoption but for some reason it gave us a desire to adopt. I am not sure why it affected us like it did, but it left us with the desire to help children through adoption.<\/p>\n<p>We had been married a year when we decided to go to an information meeting with social services about adoption. We came away with the realization that adoption was very difficult, and that the children who needed homes the most we could not adopt because we were not the same race. The laws were different then and the system did not allow cross racial adoption to take place. So we did not pursue it at that time but kept it in our minds as a desire for a later time.<\/p>\n<p>When we had four children we started thinking about it again. We thought this was something God wanted us to do. However, we thought we had too many children, not enough money, were too old, didn\u2019t have a nice enough house, etc. When our youngest child was ten, we decided to give foster care a try. We went to the MAP class. We did everything they required. They came to the house, and they said we passed. Then they called back and said we didn\u2019t pass after all because some work on our house was needed. I had told the social worker ahead of time that we were renovating our house. After conversations back and forth, we decided to withdraw our file. We were discouraged and did not know what to do. About a year later we went to a church meeting on adoption. We met a private social worker there. She said that what happened to us was not right, but that the foster care system is very strict. So we decided to step out on faith, have her do a home study, and try to adopt a child from foster care. We passed our home study and began submitting it for children. Our social worker found out about two little girls with an agency. The agency did not have a family for them, and they needed to be placed within a month. So we submitted our home study. The mother chose us. The only problem was the cost. We thought about not moving forward because of the money, but we finally decided that we should not let that stop us. We trusted God to supply the money if this was what He wanted. And He did in a very special and miraculous way! We brought home two beautiful little girls ages two and five at the time. They became a part of our family very quickly and naturally. I know that does not always happen, but it did for us. The oldest had gone to kindergarden for a couple of months, but we began to homeshool her. At first she missed school and being around a lot of kids, but she quickly came to like being homeschooled. I would say to anyone who feels like God is leading them to adopt, to step out on faith and let God lead you. And he will bless you beyond what you can imagine.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"field field-name-field-article-author field-type-node-reference field-label-hidden\">\n<div class=\"field-items\">\n<div class=\"field-item even\">\n<div id=\"node-825\" class=\"node node-bio-profile contextual-links-region clearfix\">\n<div class=\"contextual-links-wrapper contextual-links-processed\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<div class=\"content clearfix\">\n<div class=\"field field-name-field-author-head-shot field-type-image field-label-hidden\">\n<div class=\"field-items\">\n<div class=\"field-item even\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-20497 size-full alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/nche.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/01\/Wendi-Hiltoncropped.jpg?resize=80%2C100&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"80\" height=\"100\" \/><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden\">\n<div class=\"field-items\">\n<div class=\"field-item even\">\n<p><em>Wendi and her husband, Virgil, have homeschooled for twenty years. She served on the NCHE board as region 7 director for eight years.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_3&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;3.25&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_sidebar area=&#8221;et_pb_widget_area_18&#8243; admin_label=&#8221;GREENHOUSE Sidebar&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.6.6&#8243; global_module=&#8221;19006&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_sidebar][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; 1. Januar 2014 Unsere Adoptionsgeschichte begann im Jahr 1984. Wir sahen uns einen Film an, der in uns den Wunsch weckte, einem Kind ein Zuhause zu geben, das kein Zuhause hat. In dem Film ging es nicht um Adoption, aber aus irgendeinem Grund weckte er in uns den Wunsch, zu adoptieren. Ich bin mir nicht sicher, warum es uns so beeinflusst hat, aber es hat in uns den Wunsch geweckt, Kindern durch Adoption zu helfen. Wir waren seit einem Jahr verheiratet, als wir beschlossen, zu einem Informationstreffen mit den Sozialdiensten zum Thema Adoption zu gehen. Uns wurde klar, dass eine Adoption sehr schwierig war und dass wir die Kinder, die am meisten ein Zuhause brauchten, nicht adoptieren konnten, weil wir nicht derselben Rasse angeh\u00f6rten. Die Gesetze waren damals anders und das System erlaubte keine rassen\u00fcbergreifende Adoption. Deshalb verfolgten wir es zu diesem Zeitpunkt nicht, sondern behielten es als Wunsch f\u00fcr eine sp\u00e4tere Zeit im Kopf. Als wir vier Kinder hatten, begannen wir erneut dar\u00fcber nachzudenken. Wir dachten, das sei etwas, was Gott von uns wollte. Allerdings dachten wir, wir h\u00e4tten zu viele Kinder, nicht genug Geld, seien zu alt, h\u00e4tten kein h\u00fcbsches Haus usw. Als unser j\u00fcngstes Kind zehn Jahre alt war, beschlossen wir, es mit einer Pflegefamilie zu versuchen. Wir gingen zum MAP-Kurs. Wir haben alles getan, was sie brauchten. Sie kamen zum Haus und sagten, wir seien vorbeigekommen. Dann riefen sie zur\u00fcck und sagten, wir h\u00e4tten doch nicht bestanden, weil einige Arbeiten an unserem Haus n\u00f6tig seien. Ich hatte dem Sozialarbeiter im Voraus gesagt, dass wir unser Haus renovieren w\u00fcrden. Nach Hin- und Hergespr\u00e4chen beschlossen wir, unsere Akte zur\u00fcckzuziehen. Wir waren entmutigt und wussten nicht, was wir tun sollten. Ungef\u00e4hr ein Jahr sp\u00e4ter besuchten wir eine kirchliche Versammlung zum Thema Adoption. Dort trafen wir einen privaten Sozialarbeiter. Sie sagte, dass das, was uns passiert sei, nicht richtig sei, aber dass das Pflegesystem sehr streng sei. Deshalb beschlossen wir, den Glauben aufzugeben, sie zu Hause studieren zu lassen und zu versuchen, ein Kind aus einer Pflegefamilie zu adoptieren. Wir bestanden unser Heimstudium und begannen, es f\u00fcr Kinder einzureichen. Unsere Sozialarbeiterin erfuhr \u00fcber eine Agentur von zwei kleinen M\u00e4dchen. Die Agentur hatte keine Familie f\u00fcr sie und sie mussten innerhalb eines Monats untergebracht werden. Also reichten wir unsere Heimstudie ein. Die Mutter hat sich f\u00fcr uns entschieden. Das einzige Problem waren die Kosten. Wir dachten dar\u00fcber nach, wegen des Geldes nicht weiterzumachen, kamen aber schlie\u00dflich zu dem Schluss, dass wir uns davon nicht aufhalten lassen sollten. Wir vertrauten darauf, dass Gott f\u00fcr das Geld sorgen w\u00fcrde, wenn Er das wollte. Und das tat er auf ganz besondere und wundersame Weise! Wir brachten zwei wundersch\u00f6ne kleine M\u00e4dchen im Alter von damals zwei und f\u00fcnf Jahren mit nach Hause. Sie wurden sehr schnell und nat\u00fcrlich ein Teil unserer Familie. Ich wei\u00df, dass das nicht immer passiert, aber bei uns war es so. Die \u00c4lteste war f\u00fcr ein paar Monate in den Kindergarten gegangen, aber wir begannen, sie zu Hause zu unterrichten. Zuerst vermisste sie die Schule und den Umgang mit vielen Kindern, aber schnell fand sie Gefallen daran, zu Hause unterrichtet zu werden. Ich w\u00fcrde jedem, der das Gef\u00fchl hat, dass Gott ihn zur Adoption f\u00fchrt, raten, aus dem Glauben herauszutreten und sich von Gott f\u00fchren zu lassen. Und er wird Sie mehr segnen, als Sie sich vorstellen k\u00f6nnen. Wendi und ihr Mann Virgil unterrichten seit zwanzig Jahren zu Hause. Sie war acht Jahre lang als Direktorin der Region 7 im NCHE-Vorstand t\u00e4tig. &nbsp; &nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_wpcom_ai_launchpad_first_post":false,"_jetpack_hide_featured_image":false,"_jetpack_featured_image_duplicate_dismissed":0,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_members_access_role":[],"_members_access_error":""},"categories":[215,14],"tags":[17,218],"class_list":["post-20085","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-fall-2013","category-greenhouse","tag-family-life","tag-adoption"],"acf":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pgvs5H-5dX","jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20085","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20085"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20085\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":20498,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20085\/revisions\/20498"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20085"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20085"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20085"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}