{"id":26135,"date":"2021-08-13T17:58:21","date_gmt":"2021-08-13T21:58:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nche.com\/?p=26135"},"modified":"2021-08-13T17:58:21","modified_gmt":"2021-08-13T21:58:21","slug":"blog-reasons-to-homeschool-positive-socialization-and-character-development","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nche.com\/es\/blog-reasons-to-homeschool-positive-socialization-and-character-development\/","title":{"rendered":"Razones para la educaci\u00f3n en el hogar: socializaci\u00f3n positiva y desarrollo del car\u00e1cter"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"por Diane Helfrich, agosto de 2021<\/strong><\/p>\n

Una vez que un ni\u00f1o entra en nuestras vidas, comenzamos a pensar en los a\u00f1os venideros.<\/span>\u2014<\/b>su <\/span>las primeras palabras y pasos se convierten en la escuela, la graduaci\u00f3n y la universidad, y luego, esperamos, un lanzamiento exitoso a la edad adulta. Parte de lo bien que nuestro hijo negocia estos pasos tiene que ver con con qui\u00e9n pasa la mayor parte del tiempo, lo que lee, asimila a trav\u00e9s de los medios y los juegos y, lo que es m\u00e1s importante, lo que se le ense\u00f1a. Uno de mis autores favoritos sobre liderazgo cristiano. , John Maxwell, dice: \u201cEl talento es un don, pero el car\u00e1cter es una elecci\u00f3n\u201d. Veamos la diferencia entre una escuela tradicional y una educaci\u00f3n en el hogar en su efecto sobre el desarrollo del car\u00e1cter.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfCon qui\u00e9n tiene m\u00e1s asociaci\u00f3n su hijo a partir de los cinco o seis a\u00f1os? En una escuela tradicional, se les coloca en una sala con veinte o treinta alumnos de la misma edad y uno o dos adultos durante aproximadamente siete u ocho horas al d\u00eda. Es probable que interact\u00faen con otros adultos a lo largo de la semana mientras van a arte, m\u00fasica, educaci\u00f3n f\u00edsica o la biblioteca, pero la mayor parte de su tiempo lo pasan en el aula con ni\u00f1os de la misma edad que tienen las mismas habilidades sociales. Esta situaci\u00f3n probablemente ser\u00e1 la norma durante los pr\u00f3ximos trece a\u00f1os. Piense en los comportamientos aprendidos all\u00ed. Claro, hay muchos ni\u00f1os que se portan bien y la maestra est\u00e1 haciendo lo mejor que puede, pero tambi\u00e9n hay ni\u00f1os malos, ni\u00f1os aburridos, ni\u00f1os de familias con expectativas sociales muy diferentes a la tuya, ni\u00f1os que odian la escuela y ni\u00f1os que dicen cosas que t\u00fa realmente no quiero escuchar. La mayor\u00eda de los comportamientos que nuestros hijos absorben provienen de personas en su entorno: aprendizaje social.<\/span><\/p>\n

De acuerdo a <\/span>Fronteras para mentes j\u00f3venes<\/span><\/a>, hay un par de tipos de aprendizaje social. Uno se deriva de observar a los dem\u00e1s, observar sus elecciones y acciones y las consiguientes repercusiones de esas acciones, ya sean buenas o malas. Un segundo tipo de aprendizaje social se centra en c\u00f3mo se comportan las personas. Es donde comenzamos a comprender los conceptos de confiabilidad y credibilidad. \u00bfQui\u00e9n nos respalda? \u00bfQui\u00e9n viene en nuestra ayuda? \u00bfQui\u00e9n nos traiciona? Entre estos tipos de aprendizaje, decidimos c\u00f3mo actuar y c\u00f3mo interpretar nuestro mundo. Ahora, pensemos en el sal\u00f3n de clases donde nuestros ni\u00f1os aprenden estos conceptos cr\u00edticos principalmente de otros ni\u00f1os en aproximadamente el mismo nivel de madurez.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tampoco es solo con qui\u00e9n nos juntamos, sino la cantidad de comportamiento negativo que nos rodea lo que forma nuestras actitudes. De acuerdo a <\/span>muy bien mente<\/span><\/a>, \u201cDebido a que la informaci\u00f3n negativa provoca un aumento en la actividad en un \u00e1rea cr\u00edtica de procesamiento de informaci\u00f3n del cerebro, nuestros comportamientos y actitudes tienden a ser moldeados m\u00e1s poderosamente por malas noticias, experiencias e informaci\u00f3n\u201d. \u00a1Eso no es un buen augurio si est\u00e1s rodeado de comportamientos negativos! Lamentablemente, nos atrae el mal comportamiento. Si nos sentimos atra\u00eddos por \u00e9l y alrededor de \u00e9l, existe una gran probabilidad de que lo absorbamos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ahora, echemos un vistazo a la educaci\u00f3n en el hogar. \u00bfCon qui\u00e9n es la asociaci\u00f3n principal? Probablemente sea mam\u00e1 o pap\u00e1 y algunos hermanos. Luego, con suerte, hay un grupo de educaci\u00f3n en el hogar o una cooperativa donde nos reunimos con otros quiz\u00e1s una vez a la semana y quiz\u00e1s tengamos un ambiente de sal\u00f3n de clases m\u00e1s tradicional. Tambi\u00e9n est\u00e1 nuestra iglesia, la biblioteca, el grupo de ajedrez de educaci\u00f3n en el hogar, el equipo de f\u00fatbol, etc. Hay significativamente m\u00e1s adultos en todas estas actividades fuera del hogar porque casi todos los ni\u00f1os tienen un padre all\u00ed. Hay ni\u00f1os en edad preescolar mezclados con primaria, combinados con estudiantes de secundaria, incluso combinados con estudiantes de secundaria. Entonces, en la semana de un estudiante educado en el hogar, la mayor parte del tiempo ser\u00e1 con la familia, y el tiempo de grupo ser\u00e1 con un rango de edades y otros adultos en lugar de ni\u00f1os en su mayor\u00eda de la misma edad. El aprendizaje social se produce en un nivel m\u00e1s avanzado debido a la rica combinaci\u00f3n de personas, lo que influye en la capacidad de relacionarse con personas de distintas edades. En comparaci\u00f3n, \u00bfpreferir\u00eda que su hijo aprenda el comportamiento social de ni\u00f1os de la misma edad sobre los que no tiene control, o preferir\u00eda que aprenda el comportamiento social de usted y de los adultos que elija y en los que conf\u00ede? Con la escolarizaci\u00f3n tradicional, no es que los padres no tengan influencia, pero las horas de vigilia en el hogar son significativamente menores que las horas que pasan con sus compa\u00f1eros en la escuela.<\/span><\/p>\n

Por supuesto, va mucho m\u00e1s all\u00e1 del aprendizaje social. En su educaci\u00f3n en el hogar, tiene la oportunidad de moldear el car\u00e1cter en el marco de sus creencias. Eliges planes de estudio que apoyan tu sistema de creencias. Si es cristiano, puede entretejer esos valores en su trabajo diario con sus hijos: les ense\u00f1a valores y establece las expectativas. Puedes criar a tus hijos sabiendo la importancia de compartir y brindar servicio a los dem\u00e1s. Tienes tiempo de que el sistema escolar no tenga que hablar sobre el valor del buen car\u00e1cter y lo que significa en las relaciones con los dem\u00e1s. En su educaci\u00f3n en el hogar, puede tener m\u00e1s capacidad para construir relaciones s\u00f3lidas con abuelos, t\u00edas y t\u00edos y amigos cercanos de la familia y reforzar los valores de respeto y cari\u00f1o a trav\u00e9s del tiempo que pasan juntos. En su educaci\u00f3n en el hogar, usted, como padre, decide y ense\u00f1a lo que constituye un buen car\u00e1cter.<\/span><\/p>\n

En mi <\/span>art\u00edculo<\/span><\/a> sobre el \u00e9xito acad\u00e9mico anteriormente en esta serie de blogs, expuse una investigaci\u00f3n que muestra que los adultos que han sido educados en el hogar son estad\u00edsticamente m\u00e1s exitosos, participan en m\u00e1s servicios comunitarios, participan en responsabilidades c\u00edvicas como las elecciones y tienden a tener valores y creencias familiares m\u00e1s fuertes de sus padres (<\/span>nheri<\/span><\/a>). \u00bfPor qu\u00e9? Porque el aprendizaje social tiene lugar en el \u00e1mbito donde prevalecen m\u00e1s los valores que expresas a trav\u00e9s de la vida diaria: \u00a1tu hogar! ellos estan modelando<\/span> t\u00fa<\/span><\/i>. En retrospectiva, siento que el \u00e9xito de mis hijos depende mucho m\u00e1s de qui\u00e9nes \u00e9ramos como padres que de lo que les pedimos que aprendieran. Valoramos el trabajo duro, la honestidad, la integridad, la gesti\u00f3n financiera responsable, el respeto por los dem\u00e1s, las comidas en familia\u2026 \u00a1al igual que ellos! Incluso si no les ense\u00f1amos eso intencionalmente, ellos lo observaron y lo modelaron, al igual que la mayor\u00eda de las personas con las que nos rodeamos fuera de nuestro hogar.<\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00ed, lo que nos rodea<\/span> afecta nuestro car\u00e1cter. Debemos tener cuidado en nuestras decisiones sobre a qu\u00e9 est\u00e1n expuestos nuestros hijos en la vida. Finalmente, Proverbios 13:20 dice: \u201cEl que anda con los sabios, sabio se vuelve, pero el que se junta con los necios sufre mal\u201d.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

by Diane Helfrich, August 2021 Once a child enters our lives, we start thinking about the years to come\u2014their first words and steps turn into school, graduation, and college, and then, we hope, a successful launch to adulthood. Part of how well our child negotiates these steps has to do with who they spend the most time with, what they read, take in through media and games, and, most importantly, what they are taught., One of my favorite Christian leadership authors, John Maxwell, says, \u201cTalent is a gift, but character is a choice.\u201d Let\u2019s look at the difference between a traditional school and a homeschool in its effect on character development.\u00a0 Who does your child have the most association with beginning at age five or six? In a traditional school, they are placed in a room with twenty or thirty students of the same age and one or two adults for roughly seven to eight hours a day. They will likely interact with other adults throughout the week as they go to art, music, PE, or the library, but most of their time is in the classroom with same-aged kids who have the same-aged social skills. This situation will likely be the norm for the next thirteen years. Think of the behaviors learned there. Sure, there are many well-behaved kids, and the teacher is doing her best, but there are also mean kids, bored kids, kids from families with very different social expectations than yours, kids that hate school, and kids that say things you really don\u2019t want to hear. The majority of behaviors our children absorb come from people in their environment\u2014social learning. According to Frontiers for Young Minds, there are a couple of types of social learning. One stems from watching others, observing their choices and actions and the ensuing repercussions of those actions, be they good or bad. A second type of social learning focuses on how people behave. It\u2019s where we begin to understand the concepts of trustworthiness and believability. Who backs us up? Who comes to our aid? Who betrays us? Between these types of learning, we decide how to act and how to interpret our world. Now, let\u2019s think back to the classroom where our kids learn these critical concepts primarily from other kids at roughly the same maturity level. It\u2019s also not just who we hang with, but the amount of negative behavior around us that forms our attitudes. According to Very Well Mind, \u201cBecause negative information causes a surge in activity in a critical information processing area of the brain, our behaviors and attitudes tend to be shaped more powerfully by bad news, experiences, and information.\u201d That doesn\u2019t bode well if you are around negative behaviors! We are, unfortunately, drawn to bad behavior. If we are drawn to it and around it, there is a strong likelihood that we will absorb it. Now, let\u2019s look at homeschooling. Who is the primary association with? It\u2019s probably Mom or Dad and some siblings. Then, hopefully, there is a homeschool group or co-op where we meet with others maybe once a week or so and may even have a more traditional classroom environment. There is also our church, the library, the homeschool chess group, the soccer team, etc. There are significantly more adults in all of these not-at-home activities because pretty much every child has a parent there. There are preschoolers mixed with elementary, blended with middle schoolers, even combined with high schoolers. So, in the week of a homeschooled student, most of the time will be with family, and group time will be with a range of ages and other adults instead of mostly same-aged kids. Social learning occurs at a more advanced level because of the rich mix of people\u2014which influences the ability to relate to people of various ages. In comparison, would you prefer your child learn social behavior from kids the same age over whom you have no control, or would you rather they learn social behavior from you and adults you choose and trust? With traditional schooling, it\u2019s not that parents don\u2019t have influence, but the waking hours at home are significantly less than the hours they spend with peers at school. Of course, it goes far beyond just social learning. In your homeschool, you have the opportunity to mold character in the framework of your beliefs. You choose curricula that support your belief system.\u00a0 If you are a Christian, you can weave those values into your daily work with your children\u2014you teach values and set the expectations. You can raise your children knowing the importance of sharing and providing service to others. You have time that the school system doesn\u2019t have to talk about the value of good character and what it means in relationships with others. In your homeschool, you may have more ability to build strong relationships with grandparents, aunts and uncles, and close family friends and reinforce the values of respect and caring through time spent together. In your homeschool, you, as the parent, decide and teach what constitutes good character. In my article about academic success earlier in this blog series, I fronted research showing adults who have been homeschooled are statistically more successful, participate in more community service, participate in civic responsibilities such as elections, and tend to be more likely to have strong family values and beliefs of their parents (nheri). Why? Because social learning is taking place in the realm where the values you express through daily living are most prevalent\u2014your home! They are modeling you. In hindsight, I feel like my children\u2019s success is far more about who we were as parents than about what we asked them to learn. We value hard work, honesty, integrity, responsible financial management, respect for others, family mealtime\u2026 as do they! Even if we didn\u2019t intentionally teach that, they observed it and modeled it, as did most of the people we surrounded ourselves with outside of our home. Yes, what surrounds us affects our character. 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