). Es un problema com\u00fan para las madres que intentan ser esposas, madres, maestras, amigas y, a menudo, empleadas. La S\u00faper Mam\u00e1 es un papel dif\u00edcil, y todos lo manejamos a veces mejor que otros. La clave es reconocer cu\u00e1ndo la quemadura es demasiado y tomar un descanso. El viejo dicho. \u201c\u00a1Si mam\u00e1 no es feliz, nadie es feliz!\u201d (un viejo dicho sure\u00f1o cantado en 1998 por Tracy Bird) es m\u00e1s cierto de lo que nos gustar\u00eda admitir. Debido a que jugamos un papel tan central en nuestras familias, nuestro estado de \u00e1nimo y cambios en la vida los afectan en gran medida.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\nPerm\u00edtanme introducir un concepto de ritmo y margen: un enfoque consciente en un equilibrio entre trabajar duro y jugar duro, un ciclo previsto de cambio en las actividades. En f\u00edsica, aprendemos y entendemos que para cada acci\u00f3n, hay una reacci\u00f3n igual y opuesta. Es una constante universal que se aplica tambi\u00e9n a nuestra psique.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\nDolly Parton dijo una vez: \u201cSeg\u00fan yo lo veo, si quieres el arco\u00edris, tienes que aguantar la lluvia\u201d. Pi\u00e9nsalo. Viene la tormenta, seguida de la calma y la belleza del arco\u00edris; en cierto modo, son opuestos. Los \u00e1rboles pierden sus hojas y tienen un descanso completo antes del trabajo de producci\u00f3n durante los meses de primavera, verano y oto\u00f1o, nuevamente una especie de opuesto. Cuando alguien te empuja, t\u00fa empujas hacia atr\u00e1s. Por lo tanto, piense en el equilibrio entre el trabajo y el juego y c\u00f3mo podr\u00eda crear un tiempo "opuesto".\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\u00bfEst\u00e1s refrescado cuando duermes un poco? \u00bfTienes m\u00e1s energ\u00eda cuando sales y te mueves? \u00bfC\u00f3mo te sientes cuando te vas de vacaciones? \u00bfHas probado los ejercicios de mindfulness? Estas son todas las partes "margen" de la ecuaci\u00f3n. El punto con cualquiera de estos es que los haces con un grado de intensidad o enfoque. Haz que tu mente y tu cuerpo hagan algo muy diferente a lo que est\u00e1s haciendo con tus responsabilidades (el \u201critmo\u201d). No cambies un poco. \u00a1Cambia mucho! Pero, m\u00e1s que eso, cambie con un enfoque consciente en c\u00f3mo se siente en la actividad a medida que cambia el ritmo de la vida.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/nche.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/eli-defaria-vCzh1jOyre8-unsplash.jpg?resize=327%2C218&ssl=1\")
Creo que es muy f\u00e1cil tomar una siesta o caminar pasivamente. La pr\u00f3xima vez, conc\u00e9ntrate en cada aspecto de la siesta o de la caminata, y enf\u00f3cate en cada aspecto de c\u00f3mo te sientes cuando sea el momento de volver a ponerte la capa de Supermam\u00e1. Piensa en c\u00f3mo se siente cada cent\u00edmetro de tu cuerpo contra la silla o la cama. Despeja tu mente enfoc\u00e1ndote en la respiraci\u00f3n. O, estando afuera, adem\u00e1s de concentrarte en respirar, siente el sol, escucha los p\u00e1jaros, mira el cielo. Piensa en c\u00f3mo se siente tu cuerpo mientras sudas. Creo que encontrar\u00e1 que el acto mismo de concentrar los pensamientos le ayudar\u00e1 a sacudirse mejor el "cansancio" de su d\u00eda.<\/span><\/p>\n\u00a0\u00bfEsperas a quemarte para probar todo esto? \u00a1Cielos, no! Incorp\u00f3ralo a tu horario. Acabas de completar un gran esfuerzo de limpieza profunda de la casa. Ahora, habiendo planeado el tiempo, si\u00e9ntese afuera bajo el sol durante una hora, absorba algunos rayos c\u00e1lidos y si\u00e9ntalo en su piel. Huele el aire. Escuche los p\u00e1jaros y el sonido de un autom\u00f3vil que pasa. Experimente cada aspecto antes de ir a preparar la pr\u00f3xima comida. \u00bfSab\u00edas que ibas a tener una sesi\u00f3n particularmente dif\u00edcil de trabajar en matem\u00e1ticas el lunes y el martes (ritmo)? Planee ahora ir al parque el martes por la tarde y jugar (margen). Juega duro y r\u00edete. Conc\u00e9ntrese en las reacciones de sus hijos al medio ambiente. Conc\u00e9ntrate en c\u00f3mo se siente tu cuerpo mientras te mueves. Conc\u00e9ntrate en respirar el aire fresco. Luego, conc\u00e9ntrate en c\u00f3mo te sientes mientras te diriges a casa. \u00bfTrabaj\u00f3 duro durante varias horas con los ni\u00f1os prepar\u00e1ndolos para el pr\u00f3ximo torneo de oratoria y debate y luego tuvo que hacer impuestos adem\u00e1s de todas las dem\u00e1s tareas dom\u00e9sticas (ritmo)? Planifique con anticipaci\u00f3n para tener un par de d\u00edas de inactividad despu\u00e9s del torneo (margen). Tal vez planifique un viaje a la playa, una tarde relajante con un amigo o un paseo por el campo escuchando m\u00fasica de adoraci\u00f3n.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\nEs tan f\u00e1cil concentrarse en lo que se debe hacer. Sin embargo, nunca tenemos el mismo enfoque en ese otro espacio cuando no estamos![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/nche.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/brigitte-tohm-EAay7Aj4jbc-unsplash.jpg?resize=312%2C363&ssl=1\")
en nuestros papeles principales. Planificamos el ritmo. Tendemos a no planificar el margen. Comience a darle un enfoque consciente y vea si cambia la forma en que rebota. Dale a ese trabajo duro una reacci\u00f3n igual y opuesta de juego o relajaci\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\nPor cierto, es una gran habilidad para la vida para ense\u00f1ar a sus hijos. Ellos te ver\u00e1n hacerlo. Puedes hablar con ellos al respecto. Ellos modelar\u00e1n lo que haces, ya sea que incluyas un margen intencional o no. Parte del lujo de la educaci\u00f3n en el hogar es tener una forma de ense\u00f1ar habilidades para la vida y el desarrollo del car\u00e1cter con el ejemplo. Ense\u00f1ar ritmo y margen sirve para ayudar a desarrollar el equilibrio. El equilibrio ayuda con el control de las emociones. El control emocional ayuda a mantener los cambios de humor m\u00e1s manejables, ya sea que seamos nosotros o nuestros hijos. Poner un poco de ritmo y margen en tu vida es uno de esos peque\u00f1os cambios del cinco por ciento que puedes hacer y que produce resultados mucho mayores. Dios cre\u00f3 el primer ritmo y margen como cre\u00f3 la tierra y todo lo que hay en ella, incluida la humanidad, en seis d\u00edas. Al final de cada d\u00eda, se tomaba el tiempo para evaluar Su obra y dec\u00eda: \u201cEs buena\u201d. El s\u00e9ptimo d\u00eda, \u00c9l descans\u00f3.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n
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Diane Helfrich es una educadora en el hogar jubilada de catorce a\u00f1os. Ella y su esposo David tienen dos hijos que recibieron educaci\u00f3n de grado y posgrado. Ahora, se desempe\u00f1a como directora de desarrollo de NCHE y disfruta cocinar, leer y tocar el ukelele en su tiempo libre.<\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"by Diane Helfrich, March 2022 A feeling of exhaustion, constant concern that you are doing the right thing, a new-found cynicism or sadness, difficulty concentrating, difficulty sleeping, no sense of purpose or satisfaction, changes in health\u2014these are all signs of burnout (Mayo Clinic). It\u2019s a common problem for moms who are trying to be wives, moms, teachers, friends, and often employees. The Super Mom is a tough role, and we all handle it at times better than others. The key is recognizing when the burn is too much and taking a break. The old saying. \u201cIf Momma ain’t happy, ain\u2019t nobody happy!\u201d (an old southern saying put into song in 1998 by Tracy Bird) is truer than we\u2019d like to admit. Because we play such a central role in our families, our moods and life swings affect them greatly.\u00a0 Let me introduce a concept of rhythm and margin: a conscious focus on a balance between working hard and playing hard\u2014an intended cycle of change-up in activities. In physics, we learn and understand that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. It\u2019s a universal constant that applies to our psyche as well.\u00a0 Dolly Parton once said, \u201cThe way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain.\u201d Think about it. The storm comes, followed by the calm and the beauty of the rainbow; in a way, they are opposites. Trees lose their leaves and have complete rest before the work of production during the spring, summer, and fall months, again a type of opposite. When someone pushes you, you push back. So, think about the work\/play balance and how you might create some \u201copposite\u201d time.\u00a0 Are you refreshed when you sleep in a bit? Do you have more energy when you get outside and move? How do you feel when you get away on vacation? Have you tried mindfulness exercises? These are all the \u201cmargin\u201d parts of the equation. The point with any of these is that you do them with a degree of intensity or focus. Make your mind and body do something very different than what you are doing with your responsibilities (the \u201crhythm\u201d). Don\u2019t change up a little. Change up a lot! But, more than that, change up with a conscious focus on how you feel in the activity as you change the tempo of life.\u00a0 I think it\u2019s very easy to passively take a nap or a walk. Next time, focus on every aspect of the nap or walk, and focus on every aspect of how you feel when it’s time to don your Super Mom cape again. Think about how every inch of your body feels against the chair or bed. Clear your mind by focusing on breathing. Or, while outside, in addition to focusing on breathing, feel the sun, hear the birds, see the sky. Think about how your body feels as you work up a sweat. I think you will find that the very act of concentrated thoughts will help you better shake off the \u201ctired\u201d from your day. \u00a0Do you wait for burnout to try all this? Heavens, no! Build it into your schedule. You just completed a heavy effort deep cleaning the house. Now, having planned the time, sit outside in the sun for an hour, soak up some warm rays, and feel it on your skin. Smell the air. Hear the birds and the sound of a car going by. Experience every aspect of it before you go in to prepare the next meal. Did you know you were going to have a particularly trying session of working on math Monday and Tuesday (rhythm)? Plan now to head to the park Tuesday afternoon and play (margin). Play hard and laugh. Focus on your kids\u2019 reactions to the environment. Focus on how your body feels as you move. Focus on breathing in the fresh air. Then, focus on how you feel as you head home. Did you work hard for several hours with the kids prepping for the next speech and debate tournament and then had to do taxes in addition to all the other household chores (rhythm)? Plan ahead of time to have a couple of down days after the tournament (margin). Maybe plan a beach trip, a relaxing afternoon with a friend, or a drive in the country listening to worship music.\u00a0 It\u2019s so easy to focus on what must be done. Yet, we never have the same focus on that other space when we aren\u2019t in\u00a0our major roles. We plan the rhythm. We tend not to plan the margin. Start giving it a conscious focus and see if it changes the way you rebound. Give that hard work an equal and opposite reaction of play or relaxation. By the way, it\u2019s a great life skill to teach your kids. They will see you do it. You can talk with them about it. They will model what you do, whether you include intentional margin or not. Part of the luxury of homeschooling is to have a way to teach life skills and character development by example. Teaching rhythm and margin serves to help develop balance. Balance helps with emotion control. Emotional control helps keep the mood swings more manageable, whether it\u2019s us or our kids. Putting a little rhythm and margin into your life is one of those little five percent changes you can make that yields much larger results. God created the first rhythm and margin as he created the earth and all that is in it, including humanity, in six days. At the end of each day, He took time to evaluate His work, and said, \u201cIt is good.\u201d On the seventh day, He rested.\u00a0 Diane Helfrich is a retired homeschooler of fourteen years. She and her husband David have two children that have both gone on to receive graduate and postgraduate education. Now, she serves as the NCHE Development Director and enjoys cooking, reading, and playing ukulele […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":15906,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_wpcom_ai_launchpad_first_post":false,"_jetpack_hide_featured_image":false,"_jetpack_featured_image_duplicate_dismissed":0,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_members_access_role":[],"_members_access_error":""},"categories":[116,224,232,245,105,113],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-29844","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-peace","category-rest","category-schedule","category-family-life","category-nche-blog","category-encouragement"],"acf":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pgvs5H-7Lm","jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29844","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/15906"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=29844"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29844\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":32109,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29844\/revisions\/32109"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=29844"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=29844"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=29844"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
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<\/b>por Diane Helfrich, marzo de 2022<\/b><\/p>\n