{"id":13352,"date":"2020-05-29T20:12:36","date_gmt":"2020-05-30T00:12:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nche.com\/?p=13352"},"modified":"2020-05-29T20:18:39","modified_gmt":"2020-05-30T00:18:39","slug":"blog-when-should-i-let-my-children-make-their-own-decisions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nche.com\/vi\/blog-when-should-i-let-my-children-make-their-own-decisions\/","title":{"rendered":"Khi N\u00e0o T\u00f4i N\u00ean \u0110\u1ec3 Con T\u00f4i T\u1ef1 Quy\u1ebft \u0110\u1ecbnh?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-13353 alignright\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/nche.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/IMG_0314.jpg?resize=401%2C300&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"401\" height=\"300\" \/>Con trai 13 tu\u1ed5i c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng n\u00f3 mu\u1ed1n s\u1ed1ng trong r\u1eebng trong 24 gi\u1edd. Anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 x\u00e2y m\u1ed9t ph\u00e1o \u0111\u00e0i m\u00e0 anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u1ecbnh ng\u1ee7 \u1edf \u0111\u00f3. Nhi\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed9 l\u00e0 43 \u0111\u1ed9 v\u00e0 tr\u1eddi \u0111ang \u0111\u1ed5 m\u01b0a. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng m\u1eb9 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi v\u00e0 lo l\u1eafng v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c phi\u00eau l\u01b0u n\u00e0y. T\u00f4i c\u0169ng v\u1eady. Nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i c\u0169ng hi\u1ec3u n\u00f3. Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i n\u00f3i v\u1edbi anh \u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng trong v\u00e0i ng\u00e0y n\u1eefa tr\u1eddi s\u1ebd n\u1eafng v\u00e0 \u1ea5m \u00e1p. T\u1ea1i sao kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 sau \u0111\u00f3? Nh\u01b0ng anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1eb7t h\u1ebft t\u00e2m huy\u1ebft v\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0 anh \u1ea5y mu\u1ed1n c\u00f3 \u201ctr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ed9\u201d. Anh \u1ea5y g\u00f3i s\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng chi\u1ebfc t\u00fai ziplock, l\u00e0m m\u1ed9t \u00edt b\u00e1nh m\u00ec, l\u1ea5y t\u00fai ng\u1ee7 v\u00e0 l\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng. Quy t\u1eafc t\u1ef1 thi h\u00e0nh c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y l\u00e0 anh \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 quay l\u1ea1i nh\u00e0 trong 24 gi\u1edd.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">T\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m, t\u00f4i nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng anh \u1ea5y \u0111ang xin ph\u00e9p t\u00f4i th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n cu\u1ed9c phi\u00eau l\u01b0u n\u00e0y. Theo m\u1ed9t ngh\u0129a n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u00ec anh \u1ea5y c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m \u1edf nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc m\u00e0 anh \u1ea5y ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng. M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c, cho d\u00f9 t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch n\u00e0y c\u00f3 \u0111i\u00ean r\u1ed3 \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u00e2u, th\u00ec anh \u1ea5y c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n t\u1ef1 do \u0111\u01b0a ra quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng, t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng cho ph\u00e9p anh ta \u0111i hay kh\u00f4ng. T\u00f4i n\u00f3i v\u1edbi anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea3m b\u1ea3o r\u1eb1ng anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng, anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c \u0111i.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">T\u00f4i ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t quan tr\u1ecdng. Nathaniel l\u00e0 con gi\u1eefa c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i v\u00e0 t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh chuy\u1ec3n \u0111\u1ed5i n\u00e0y su\u00f4n s\u1ebb v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ee9a con l\u1edbn c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. T\u00f4i \u0111ang \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh chuy\u1ec3n \u0111\u1ed5i sang tu\u1ed5i tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh. Trong qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh chuy\u1ec3n \u0111\u1ed5i n\u00e0y, \u0111i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u01b0a ra quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a ri\u00eang m\u00ecnh. . . v\u00e0 g\u00e1nh ch\u1ecbu h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3. C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh s\u1ebd g\u00e2y t\u1ed5n h\u1ea1i nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00e1c con t\u00f4i m\u00e0 t\u00f4i s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang \u0111\u01b0a ra. T\u00f4i c\u0169ng gi\u00fap h\u1ecd hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng khi h\u1ecd th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh v\u00e0 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec1u s\u1ef1 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 do h\u01a1n. \u0110\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi, tr\u1ebb em ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea1o c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4n ngoan v\u00e0 s\u00e1ng su\u1ed1t t\u1eeb kinh nghi\u1ec7m \u0111\u01b0a ra l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">T\u00f4i b\u1eadt c\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e0nh ti\u1ebfng khi, v\u00e0i ph\u00fat sau khi Nathaniel r\u1eddi kh\u1ecfi nh\u00e0, m\u1ed9t c\u01a1n m\u01b0a x\u1ed1i x\u1ea3 k\u00e9o \u0111\u1ebfn. Anh \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 h\u1ed1i h\u1eadn khi tham gia cu\u1ed9c phi\u00eau l\u01b0u n\u00e0y. Anh \u1ea5y ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn s\u1ebd r\u1ea5t l\u1ea1nh v\u00e0 \u1ea9m \u01b0\u1edbt. Nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i kh\u00e1 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn r\u1eb1ng anh \u1ea5y s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng quay l\u1ea1i trong 24 gi\u1edd, b\u1edfi v\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng. T\u00f4i t\u1ef1 h\u00e0o v\u1ec1 anh \u1ea5y.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Con trai 13 tu\u1ed5i c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng n\u00f3 mu\u1ed1n s\u1ed1ng trong r\u1eebng trong 24 gi\u1edd. Anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 x\u00e2y m\u1ed9t ph\u00e1o \u0111\u00e0i m\u00e0 anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u1ecbnh ng\u1ee7 \u1edf \u0111\u00f3. Nhi\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed9 l\u00e0 43 \u0111\u1ed9 v\u00e0 tr\u1eddi \u0111ang \u0111\u1ed5 m\u01b0a. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng m\u1eb9 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi v\u00e0 lo l\u1eafng v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c phi\u00eau l\u01b0u n\u00e0y. T\u00f4i c\u0169ng v\u1eady. Nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i c\u0169ng hi\u1ec3u n\u00f3. Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i n\u00f3i v\u1edbi anh \u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng trong v\u00e0i ng\u00e0y n\u1eefa tr\u1eddi s\u1ebd n\u1eafng v\u00e0 \u1ea5m \u00e1p. T\u1ea1i sao kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 sau \u0111\u00f3? Nh\u01b0ng anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1eb7t h\u1ebft t\u00e2m huy\u1ebft v\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0 anh \u1ea5y mu\u1ed1n c\u00f3 \u201ctr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ed9\u201d. Anh \u1ea5y g\u00f3i s\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng chi\u1ebfc t\u00fai ziplock, l\u00e0m m\u1ed9t \u00edt b\u00e1nh m\u00ec, l\u1ea5y t\u00fai ng\u1ee7 v\u00e0 l\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng. Quy t\u1eafc t\u1ef1 thi h\u00e0nh c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y l\u00e0 anh \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 quay l\u1ea1i nh\u00e0 trong 24 gi\u1edd. T\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m, t\u00f4i nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng anh \u1ea5y \u0111ang xin ph\u00e9p t\u00f4i th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n cu\u1ed9c phi\u00eau l\u01b0u n\u00e0y. Theo m\u1ed9t ngh\u0129a n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u00ec anh \u1ea5y c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m \u1edf nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc m\u00e0 anh \u1ea5y ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng. M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c, cho d\u00f9 t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch n\u00e0y c\u00f3 \u0111i\u00ean r\u1ed3 \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u00e2u, th\u00ec anh \u1ea5y c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n t\u1ef1 do \u0111\u01b0a ra quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng, t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng cho ph\u00e9p anh ta \u0111i hay kh\u00f4ng. T\u00f4i n\u00f3i v\u1edbi anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea3m b\u1ea3o r\u1eb1ng anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng, anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c \u0111i. T\u00f4i ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t quan tr\u1ecdng. Nathaniel l\u00e0 con gi\u1eefa c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i v\u00e0 t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh chuy\u1ec3n \u0111\u1ed5i n\u00e0y su\u00f4n s\u1ebb v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ee9a con l\u1edbn c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. T\u00f4i \u0111ang \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh chuy\u1ec3n \u0111\u1ed5i sang tu\u1ed5i tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh. Trong qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh chuy\u1ec3n \u0111\u1ed5i n\u00e0y, \u0111i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u01b0a ra quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a ri\u00eang m\u00ecnh. . . v\u00e0 g\u00e1nh ch\u1ecbu h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3. C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh s\u1ebd g\u00e2y t\u1ed5n h\u1ea1i nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00e1c con t\u00f4i m\u00e0 t\u00f4i s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang \u0111\u01b0a ra. T\u00f4i c\u0169ng gi\u00fap h\u1ecd hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng khi h\u1ecd th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh v\u00e0 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tin t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 do h\u01a1n. \u0110\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi, tr\u1ebb em ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea1o c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4n ngoan v\u00e0 s\u00e1ng su\u1ed1t t\u1eeb kinh nghi\u1ec7m \u0111\u01b0a ra l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn. T\u00f4i b\u1eadt c\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e0nh ti\u1ebfng khi, v\u00e0i ph\u00fat sau khi Nathaniel r\u1eddi kh\u1ecfi nh\u00e0, m\u1ed9t c\u01a1n m\u01b0a x\u1ed1i x\u1ea3 k\u00e9o \u0111\u1ebfn. Anh \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 h\u1ed1i h\u1eadn khi tham gia cu\u1ed9c phi\u00eau l\u01b0u n\u00e0y. Anh \u1ea5y ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn s\u1ebd r\u1ea5t l\u1ea1nh v\u00e0 \u1ea9m \u01b0\u1edbt. Nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i kh\u00e1 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn r\u1eb1ng anh \u1ea5y s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng quay l\u1ea1i trong 24 gi\u1edd, b\u1edfi v\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng. T\u00f4i t\u1ef1 h\u00e0o v\u1ec1 anh \u1ea5y.\u00a0<\/p>","protected":false},"author":15901,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_wpcom_ai_launchpad_first_post":false,"_jetpack_hide_featured_image":false,"_jetpack_featured_image_duplicate_dismissed":0,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_members_access_role":[],"_members_access_error":""},"categories":[105,137,138],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13352","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-nche-blog","category-parenting","category-teens"],"acf":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pgvs5H-3tm","jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13352","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/15901"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13352"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13352\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":13354,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13352\/revisions\/13354"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13352"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13352"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nche.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13352"}],"curies":[{"name":"trang web","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}